Happiness is how we feel right now, no matter is what is happening around us or what other people are doing. It’s the way we look at the world and interpret everything that happens to us.
Happiness Can Be Learned
Happy people share habits that you can learn, too. Their happiness comes from within and has been taught by all sages and philosophers across all cultures.
Happiness Begins with Gratitude
Be grateful for all things, large and small. Even your problems and sorrows are often blessings undercover for what you learned from them. Gratitude is the gift that keeps on giving. It’s the key to remembering what we have left, not anything we may have lost.
It’s a platitude but true – count your blessings and you’ll be astonished how many there are. Grateful people are inevitably given more for which to be grateful!
Happiness is in the Present
What does living in the present mean? It means enjoying what is happening as it happens. Is it a sunny day or a snow day when you can cuddle up with a good book? You can enjoy that right now even if you lost your job, your house is mess, the car is acting up and your marriage is crumbling.
The past, whether good or bad, doesn’t exist unless you literally re-create it by recalling it into the present. This is what happens to your inner state when you torment yourself with regret, blame yourself or others and generally feel sorry for yourself. That stuff is not happening now!
Nor can you be happy in the future. When the future arrives it is now! You can’t “wait to live” when you get that new job, pay off your bills or your spouse magically becomes loving and attentive. When you tell yourself you will be happy “someday” you almost guarantee that you cannot be happy right now.
Comparing is the Opposite of Happiness
Happy people measure their lives by their own standards. Comparison to others is a guarantee of self-torture and misery. Other people may well be completely miserable, no matter what their material blessings, good looks, social positions or seemingly happy families. They might even be comparing themselves to you!
It’s much wiser to model yourself on mentors and role models of high character and spiritual development. You can’t control your material circumstances but you can control your heart and mind.
Pain is Temporary but Happiness is Forever
Your present circumstances, whether good or bad, are not permanent. Your happiness is a state of mind and not dependent on anything outside you. Even in times of loss of loved ones, financial hardship and sickness, remember that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.
These habits are simple but the reward is your happiness. Concentrate on the present, compare yourself only to saints, be grateful and remember that present woes are temporary. To learn more: